Avoiding Dating 101

Throughout this entire quarantine, I have often wondered, how are people dating? I continue to see advertisements for multiple dating sites on social media, television, and online, but I just don’t understand. The conclusions I have drawn so far, is that either people are entering some sort of millennial pen pal arrangement (you know cuz we have cellphones, FaceTime, Messenger and Snapchat, so you don’t have to rely solely on letter writing -or texting in today’s terms) or they are literally risking their lives to link up with someone they likely won’t like after the first meeting. Either way, the ish ain’t for me.

Now, those of you who know me, know I didn’t date pre-Covid, so none of this is even relevant to me now. But… it’s not that I don’t want to date, bump bellies, or find love and all the jazz, it’s just… I’m tired. I mean it.

The very thought of mustering up energy to pretend to be interested in learning about somebody, engaging in small talk, and finding time to actually communicate with a heterosexual human being of the opposite cisgendered sex, is jusssssst…. See, I didn’t even have energy to finish the sentence.

At the same time, a question I get frequently, as I mentioned in my first full podcast episode- is, why are you single? Then they list off my accolades – something to the effect of, “you is smart, you is kind, you is important” so what’s the problem? And really, I mean honestly, the answer to that question was simply, “I don’t know.” Because the fact of the matter is, I am quite a catch, and that is my unbiased opinion, really, ask anyone who knows me. I am literally one of the best people I know-so why am I single? You want the truth? Well, here it is, (in my best Tamela Mann voice) “truth is I’m tired, options are few…”  I mean truer words have never been sung.

I watch my single friends date or get excited about meeting new people, and the whole time while I’m saying, “girl, get yours” on the outside, on the inside I am thinking, “that’s a lot of work.” And let’s face it, I already work a lot. I teach, counsel, do research, write, speak, train, annnnnnd now I gotta find energy for a dude that I’m not even confident brushes his tongue. Yea, like I said, the ish ain’t for me. Anyway, tell me your thoughts in the comments below. Oh, and if you know an amazing, hard-working, single-unattached man, hook a sister up. I think I want a quarantine pen pal J